Posts about życie

Mam dość wychodzenia ze strefy komfortu

Mam dość wychodzenia ze strefy komfortu

Mam dość wychodzenia ze strefy komfortu
Ucieczki do ciągłego rozwoju
Pozyskiwania nowych skilli
i optymalizacji każdej chwili

Bo ile można?
Męczy mnie to
Całe życie tak biegnę
I czasem już nie chcę

“Musimy pomóc szczęściu,
Bo samo do nas nie przyjdzie”
To prawda ogólnie znana
...czy tylko nasz coachingowy dramat?

Life is an art of choosing

Life is an art of choosing

Hard times we live in today. So many options to choose from. Our parents are telling us it’s one of the greatest times ever, because we don’t have to worry about food, shelter, education nor even about a job, but they don’t realise, that this whole wealth of our times is actually our biggest problem.

I have been studying the subject of quarter-life crisis and the current lack of motivation of many millennials lately a lot. I think I found the cause of it. The main difference between the previous generation (gen. X) and the current one (gen. Y) is this one:

The abundance of choice

Back in the 80s, everything was difficult. It wasn’t so easy to just “enroll into a university and get a job”. Not everybody had cash or opportunity to do that. So when we made it, they would call us a “life success”. A lot of our parents were fighting for it; and probably they tried to convince us to fight for it as well.

Fortunately, that’s not a problem anymore. At least in the western world, everything is now so super easy to get. You want to become an economist? No problem. Just spend a bit more time on maths in the high school and go into an university of economics. You’ll get a job in that field sooner or later (if only you don’t skip all the classes by drinking beer in the dorms).

However, generation Y struggles with something else: the abundance of choice. There is so many options to spend our lifetime, that the difficult thing is to actually choose one and stick to it.

Three ways to live your life

Three ways to live your life

Living your life basically comes down to a choice of three options:

1. Live for yourself.

  • Have as much fun as you can have. Live with the moment. Don't do the thing the others say you should be doing. Do whatever fuck you feel like doing. YOLO.
  • For example: Have sex. Play music. Travel.
  • Live hedonistically. As long as you do not hurt the others while doing it. Just don't. It's bad.

2. Live with your friends and family.

  • Settle down. Embrace your close circle of family and friends. Have kids and raise them well.
  • Lead your life in a romantic and peaceful way. That's why it's usually the most steadily happy one. You can't go wrong with this option.
  • That's why most of people in the world choose it.
  • Moreover, you cannot deny it's a good way. It's healthy for you, your family, and your friends. It's good for society as well (if everybody lived like that, it propably would be in a very good shape). It's good for prolonging the human race and our culture. Thus, propably that's why this way has been promoted since forever in almost every civilization and religion.

3. Live for the society and its' future.

  • Make the world a better place. Try to improve it.
  • Use the talent you have. If you have been gifted with it, you should be using it, right? Not wasting it.
  • Avoid living just for yourself and your own happiness.
  • Examples: Find a company. Serve as a volunteer in some NGO. Become a doctor. Engage in local/world politics. Educate.

That would be it, at least when it comes to the optimum options.

Of course, you can mix them.

Zapomnij o czymś takim jak talent

Zapomnij o czymś takim jak talent

Ile razy w życiu się nasłuchałem “nie mam talentu do języków”, to nawet nie zliczę. Tak samo wypowiedzi typu: “taniec? Niee, to nie dla mnie, nie mam poczucia rytmu.” Lub “Matematyka to nie moja mocna strona, raczej będę humanistą.” Kto wpadł na pomysł, by za każdym razem gdy jakaś czynność człowiekowi z początku wychodzi lub nie wychodzi, to tłumaczyć to zjawisko talentem lub jego brakiem?

Zamiast w talent, wolę wierzyć